As mothers we are biologically programmed to take care of the needs of everyone in the family. But we need to make space for taking good care of ourselves too. This starts with assuring our basic needs are met everyday.
Technology enables moms to multitask more easily but more is expected of modern parents. Even in households espousing gender equality, women tend to take on more of the childcare and household responsibilities, as well as the corresponding mental load. Dads can ease this burden by taking more initiative and following through.
Motherhood is often not what we understood or imagined it would be based upon our observations of our own mothers. While growing up, we often failed to see the behind the scenes work and effort that we now experience first hand.
Sometimes new or expectant mothers see media coverage of tragic loss in the postpartum and become concerned about “getting” postpartum depression. It’s important to talk to your providers and learn about local community resources for postpartum women.
Family law matters that include allegations of a history of domestic violence pose difficult challenges for the court system. Usually both parents are eventually awarded parenting time. For victims, getting support to heal from their experiences in the relationship and to cope with these realities of co-parenting can be a lifeline.
When you first separate, and you or soon-to-be Ex files for divorce, it can seem like things are moving very quickly. But it can take a year or more for your case to wind its way through the court system. Without ongoing support, you may become frustrated and start to believe “the Judge should decide.”
Therapy during divorce can provide you with a regular time and place in your busy week of to-do’s to slow it all down. A place to sift through all the advice. A place to say all the things you can’t say anywhere else. A place to quiet all the noise, hear your own inner voice and, from there, act purposefully and decisively.
